I’m not here to write about the song Kendrick just released with his album. But it did spark me to write about our DNA. Our DNA is a lot of things to us, it’s how our gender is decided, whether we have brown or black hair, and blue or brown eyes. There is also this symbolic DNA that’s represented in the song about who we are as people.
Kendrick said ” I got Loyalty, got royalty inside my DNA.” This means that because his DNA has those things, he is those things. Things that were passed on to him from prior generations. That means that a portion of who we are is created before we ever take a single breath. He also discusses a negative aspect of someone else’s DNA. Not only are the good things about someone fabricated before they are born, but so are the not so pleasant things.
So how is your DNA fabricated before you are born?
It all has to do with the generations that came before you. The decisions made before you were born had ramifications that led to where you are today. That’s why we have the saying that if you want to see how that person will grow up just look at their mom or dad. That statement holds so much truth that we can’t deny. We also can’t deny that you actually reflect them at whatever age you are now. If that means your mom is critical, it’s a high chance you will be. If your parents are manipulative, that means you probably will be too. It doesn’t mean you have to be 100 percent that way but it’s a 95 percent chance you are. You may not receive everything negative or positive from your parents, but you will receive what has been passed down through the generations. Those are things that have been present in your family for generations.
Does this mean there is no hope for you to be different than your family?
By all means no. You still have the chance to be different from what your family suggests. It just takes a couple of things.
1. You have to understand what are the generational flaws your family has.
2. You have to be open and honest about them.
3. You must work tirelessly to improve on the natural instincts that come over you to react in that flaw.
I know this from personal experience from trying to change the flaws I have in my family. You can’t overcome flaws unless you’re honest and open about them. The vulnerability will set you free.
To identify the flaws that you see in your parents that may be in you, do this:
- Reflect on the behaviors you didn’t/don’t like about your parents.
- Reflect on the things that you have done that have either made someone upset or have hurt someone.
- Determine whether they are the same or similar behaviors to your parents.
Now that you know the behaviors you and your parents have in common, be brutally honest about them to the people who you trust. They will keep you in check if you ask them to. This whole process will be about vulnerability, humility, and admitting where you come short.
My last statement to you is that if this is a journey you want to grow as a person, DONT LOSE HEART. It will be hard and uncomfortable but at the end you will see progress in your life and relationships. Never be afraid to grow.
If you need help with anything I listed up here, do not hesitate to send me a message through the button at the bottom of my site that says contact me. I will help answer your questions or help you through the process.
As always with love J.